actor: Kalki Koechlin recently reflected on an uncomfortable encounter with a film producer who suggested she get cosmetic fillers for her laugh lines during a casual lunch meeting. Kalki revealed that although the comment upset her, she chose to handle the situation with humor rather than confrontation.Recalling the incident, Kalki said the conversation initially revolved around the producer’s former partner, an actress. “I remember sitting with a producer and having lunch and he was talking about his ex, who was a beautiful actress. And he said that he did a lot of Botox, he seemed very crazy and it looked bad,” he said in an interview with Lilly Singh.She then shared how the producer unexpectedly shifted the conversation to her appearance. “And then he just looked at me and he was like, ‘You know, you should get fillers in your laugh lines.'”Although she laughed at what was said at the time, Kalki admitted that it made her very sad. “So I remember seeing something from the inside, but trying to make a joke out of it. But also looking at him firmly. And he stopped after that and did not talk about it. But these are the only ways that people have.When Lilly Singh asks if she regrets not dealing directly with the producer, Kalki says she has no such regrets. Instead, she turned the experience into a story for her stage show ‘I’m Okay’, which explores the experiences of motherhood and postpartum.“I incorporated that story into the show and it really resonated with the girls. They knew exactly what I was talking about,” she said.Explaining why she chose not to react immediately, Kalki pointed out that not every situation allows for direct confrontation. “Forget about work. We have people in our family that we disagree with politically. We have to have dinner with them. We have to hear them say something that we might not agree with. And we swallow our food and we move on because you have to pick and choose your battles.”He added that while some conversations can be addressed later in private, that option is not always available. “There are places where you can take that out. And there are places where now is not the time. Maybe in a private situation, you could talk to that uncle and say, ‘Hey, I was a little disturbed when you said this about women or about politics or whatever.’ But there are situations where you can’t. “During the conversation, Kalki also spoke about the gender pay gap in the entertainment industry, saying it’s sad to know that male counterparts with the same experience receive much higher salaries. “Of course, salary-wise, you know you’re in the industry as long as your partner, a male partner, but they’re getting paid more and you’ve been paid the same amount for the last few years.“She explained that many women in the industry now rely on each other by openly discussing salaries, production houses and workplace experiences. “I have a very strong community of women and we are a strong group. We tell everyone there and we share what the productions do, how much they charge, what they do. “According to Kalki, these conversations also help women identify unsafe work environments and individuals. “‘Watch out for this one. He’s a rascal.’ That’s another way women always have it. I think, you know, we call it gossip, but it’s actually a form of unity. It’s a community. It’s mutual reconciliation and awareness.”She concluded by saying that such support would help women make informed decisions before signing on to projects. “And even if you make a decision that you’re working on something that you’re not entirely okay with, but you know what’s going to happen because people have told you what it is, you’re ready for it.Kalki Koechlin made her acting debut with ‘Dev D’ in 2009 and has since won acclaim for her performances in films including ‘Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara’, ‘Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani’, ‘Margarita with a Straw’, ‘Waiting’ and ‘Gully Boy’.
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